I’ve been reading a lot of posts recently about people who have cancer. Some are battling it and some have lost their battle with it. Cancer affects all of us – my mum battled breast cancer aged 36 and thankfully won. My husband’s dad battled bowel cancer and is also thankfully still with us. One of my best friends lost her mother in law just a few months ago to this horrible disease.
I reached a breaking point on Sunday morning – Chris had been away most of the week and I was exhausted. The twins were both screaming, Max was throwing toys and spilling cereal everywhere and Chris was on a work call. It wasn’t even 9 0’clock and I’d already had enough. All parents have their moments when they say ‘I can’t do this’ and then we have a break to re-charge and we say ‘It’s alright, I’m ok again now’. The importance of having support from our loved ones.
Once Chris came off the phone, he gave me 10 minutes to re-charge. During this time, I read a heart-breaking blog written by a mother who had lost her battle with cancer. She urged parents to hug their children tightly and to embrace every moment you can spend with them – she will have no more minutes with her loved ones. I was in tears reading her blog because the timing couldn’t have been better. This might seem a bit dramatic to those of you reading this – what does having cancer have to do with having children? But at that moment I needed a reminder of how blessed I am – a reminder of how lucky I am to have time with my children and a reminder that time can be taken away with no warning.
Some people will never experience the joy of having children and I always remind myself of this as I realise how blessed I am. However, those people will also never experience the hardest job you can ever do – the daily challenges that push us to our limits and learning what heart break really feels like every time our kids hurt themselves and every time we worry about them. Hearing these heart-breaking stories won’t make the challenge of raising three children under two and a half any easier, but they do make me stop and take a breath. The challenges I’m facing are good ones and sometimes I just need to be reminded of this. And of course there are a million happy moments to the one bad ones – this is why we keep having these gorgeous little people!
If you are having one of ‘those’ days, stop and take a breath. We all know there are people worse off than us – we don’t need to be told this – but sometimes we do just need a reminder of our blessings. I’m going to go and give my blessings a big squeeze.